Shabbat
Shalom, everyone, and Shanah Tovah—a good and a healthy year to all.
Mr. Schwartz is taken in handcuffs to court
and stands before the judge. The prosecutor rises and says, “Your honor, Mr.
Schwartz was caught red-handed stealing a can of peaches from the local grocery
and he admits his guilt.” The judge shakes his head and announces, “Mr
Schwartz, we cannot have theft in the community. You must bear the consequences
of your crime. There are six peaches in this can and I sentence you to six days
in jail for every peach stolen,” and the judge slams his gavel on the bench. A
woman rises in the back of the court room and calls out, “Your, Honor!” The
judge immediately recognizes her and responds, “Mrs. Schwartz, I am not
inclined to any leniency in this case,” to which Mrs. Schwartz replies, “I know,
but he also stole a can of chick peas.”
Rosh
Hashanah is Yom HaDin—Judgment Day, a day when God judges all of humanity. Judges
wield real power. Anyone authorized to take your money, in the form of a fine,
or take your liberty, in the form of incarceration, wields real power. But the
more immediate power we have had to deal with these days is the power of a
pandemic. I was curious. I wanted to know the size of a single Corona virus
particle. We’ve all seen its microscopic structure in the media, but what is
its actual size? Turns out its size varies between 70-90 nanometers. A
nanometer is one billionth of a meter or 10 to the power of negative ten. In
other words, it’s really small, yet left unchecked, Covid-19 brought the world
to a standstill. That is real power. Who among has not felt during the past
several months incarcerated in their own home? And the effects of that pause in
our lives still reverberate—in empty sports stadiums, a darkened Broadway,
half-empty restaurants, diminished air traffic, masked faces, unemployment, religious
services in a tent, and much anxiety even with a rate of infection as low as it
is in our own beloved New York State.
If
Covid-19 has not felt like a harsh judgment, perhaps the social unrest in the
country does. We’ve had to deal with a lot these past several months—racial
tensions, questions about policing protocols, second thoughts on statuary and
how we represent our history, and on top of all this, a hot presidential
election come this November. I suspect that having been locked up as long as we
were exacerbated our responses to some of the more intractable fissures within
our social fabric. And it seems very clear, in the polarized atmosphere of our
nation, that we are presently engaged in an uncivil war. It’s no longer clear
to me that we love our neighbors as ourselves, and if that is the case, if the
Torah no longer holds sway over our beliefs and behaviors, it would be worth
our while to reflect on that development and explore whether we are comfortable
in the place we now find ourselves.
Daryl Davis is a professional musician, a pianist, who has played
with BB King and Chuck Berry. Back in 1983, he was playing a gig in Frederick,
Maryland, at the Silver Dollar Lounge, and at the end of the session, a man
comes up to him and says that he had never in his whole life heard a black man
play like Jerry Lee Lewis. So Mr. Davis said to this patron that both he and
Jerry Lee Lewis had been influenced by the same black boogie-woogie and blues.
The patron said—No, no that just wasn’t possible. So Mr. Davis said, it was
possible because he knew Jerry Lee Lewis and the two were friends. So the
patron said—No, no that’s not possible either. Then the patron invited Mr.
Davis to the bar for a drink. The two sat down at the bar and the patron said
that this was the first time he had ever had a drink with a black guy. So Mr.
Davis asked why was that. And the patron hesitated for a bit and then said—because
I belong to the Ku Klux Klan. That served as a turning point in Mr. Davis’ life
as he sought out members of the Ku Klux Klan to talk with them with the intent
of dispelling all the stereotypes and misconceptions they had about black people,
It culminated in a book published in 1998 entitled, “Klan-destine
Relationships: A Black Man’s Odyssey in the Ku Klux Klan.” Mr. Davis eventually
infiltrated the office of Robert Kelly, the Grand Dragon or so his title, and
over time, moved Mr. Kelly to drop his membership and close down the chapter he
ran in the state. Mr. Davis now owns a collection of white robes turned into
him by members of the Klan whom he has befriended and influenced to abandon
their racist points of view.
I
don’t think Mr. Davis ever forgave Klansmen for their racism. But he did not
see them so much as the enemy as he saw in them an opportunity for dialogue. It
would have been easy to scream and protest against them. It was much harder to
sit down and speak with them. Davis’ actions were either extraordinary
foolishness or extraordinary courage—and maybe a little bit of both.
We all know that this is a time of
selihah, forgiveness. We are encouraged to forgive others for the sins they
have committed against us. That’s the pious directive we encounter year after
year. Do we succeed? Do we forgive others for their sins? Let me put it another
way. Think of the person whom you do not like. We all probably have a few
people like that in our lives. This person is not a nice person. How did you
think of this person last Rosh Hashanah? Is this person still on your no-fly
list? Did you forgive this person? I bet some of you did, but I also bet a much
larger percentage did not. How do I know? Because forgiveness is one of the
most difficult things in the world to grant. People generally don’t want the sinners
of this world to be forgiven. We want them punished. We want justice. Were we
to forgive, it be almost as if we didn’t care about justice. And that grates
against us. It doesn’t seem fair. And that’s why it is so hard to forgive. If
you haven’t forgiven that person or people or whomever it is you’ve got issues
with, I don’t blame you. I only want to acknowledge the challenge forgiveness presents
and how we by and large resist its fulfillment.
As the western world continues to move further and further away
from its religious moorings in Judaism and Christianity, we have replaced the
culture of guilt with the culture of shame. I know that we typically use the
terms of shame and guilt interchangeably, but they are different. Ruth Benedict
(1887-1948), the American anthropologist and folklorist, did great work in
defining the difference between a shame culture and a guilt culture. A shame
culture is one in which a sin committed renders the sinner an object of
embarrassment and ridicule. The sin and the sinner merge and the one is
indistinguishable from the other. Time may erode the shame but there isn’t much
you can do to rid yourself of it. The sinner may seek refuge in another city,
hide, or even commit suicide. Greek culture was very much a shame culture. But
Judaism and by extension, Christianity, opted for guilt. We understand guilt. With
guilt, the sinner has committed some wrong, might even feel shame, but there is
a way to remove the guilt through all the ways we talk about removing
guilt—confession, repentance, prayer, doing acts of goodness, etc. In other
words, the sin and the sinner are two different entities. There’s a great story
in the Talmud (Berakhot 10a) about this. It’s about Rabi Meir and his brilliant
wife Beruriah. There were some undesirables in the neighborhood who bothered
Rabbi Meir. He prayed to God for their death. Beruriah turned to her husband
and said, Meir, the verse in Psalms reads:
Hata’im yitamu min ha’aretz / may sins disappear from the earth (Psalm 104:35)
It doesn’t say, hot’im, the sinners
The verse teaches us to pray that sin
disappears. How does that happen? It happens when the sinner repents. A sinner
repents and sin is removed from the earth. And Rabi Meir accepted her
interpretation, prayed accordingly, and the undesirables did repent of their
evil ways (Berakhot 10a).
That kind of thinking is not fashionable in America today where
the sinner and the sin have merged into one. It is because we are increasingly
a shame culture. Once you have committed
the sin, you are a sinner forever. It’s no recipe for a society as diverse as
ours if there would be any hope to get along with each other.
If
I told you there were people in this world who do not deserve forgiveness, I
bet many of you would agree with me. I would agree with me. But guess who may
just disagree: God. The Talmud discusses three Jewish kings who were so bad,
they were denied entry into the World to Come. One was Menasheh ben Hizkiyahu,
a seventh century BCE ruler. The Bible describes Menasheh as having put to
death so many innocent people that he filled Jerusalem with blood from one end
of the city to another (II Kings 21:16). And yet, one of the rabbis, Rabbi
Judah, comes to his defense claiming, as the Bible also lets us know, that
Menashe did teshuvah and his years of repentance far exceeded his years of sin.
When it came time for Menashe to leave this world, the middat hadin,
the Angel of Justice, blocked his entry into the World to Come. In other words,
justice demanded that a man with a history of such grave sins be thrown into
the dustbin of history, there to decompose and be forgotten. No way could
someone with so much blood on his hands make his way into eternity. God
disagreed, Rabbi Judah claimed. God dug a tunnel by which Menashe could
secretly slip into the World to Come right under the nose of the angel. Think
about that—God allowing compassion to override justice. Did Menashe really deserve
entry into eternity? I don’t think I’m that forgiving. But according to Rabbi
Judah at least, God is.
I
like to think of God’s capacity to forgive and humanity’s resistance to forgive
as one of the features distinguishing God from humans. History proves that when
it comes to forgiveness, people are infamously not up to the challenge. There
is a scene in Schindler’s List where Oskar Schindler, the German industrialist
who saved more than one thousand Jews during the Shoah, is talking to Ammon
Goth, the SS officer in charge of the construction of the Plaszow Concentration
Camp. Goth is heartless and sadistic. He kills Jews as a sport. It makes him
feel good. After all, Jews are the problem. The cause of all Germany’s problems
points to one and only one source: the Jews. Goth and Schindler are talking
power. What is power? “Why do they fear us?” Schindler asks. Goth says they
fear us because we can kill them, and that’s power. Schindler says, “That’s not
power.” And he tells Goth a story. A criminal is brought before an emperor. The
man knows he has committed a crime. The emperor knows that he can put this man
to death. But instead of invoking the death penalty, the emperor pardons the
man. That, Schindler says, is power. To know that you can ruin another person’s
life, but choose not to, to descend into accusations and recriminations against
another, but choose not to, that is a kind of unearthly self-control that runs
counter to human history and perhaps even human character. That is power.
Goth wants power. He tries to pardon a Jew. Instead, he ends up doing
what he always does: he kills yet another Jew. He has no control over the
basest of his instincts. He thinks himself justified in every insult he hurls
at Jews. He does so not because he is powerful. To the contrary, history
exposes him as an utter fool. His problem is not only his inhumanity, which is
clear enough, but even more importantly, an almost absolute disconnect from
God.
Ki imekha haselihah / [God], Yours is the power to forgive
Lema’an tivarei / And thus You are feared.
So Psalm 103:4. Feared? Why? It would
seem more likely that the power to forgive would produce not fear but relief or
jubilation or wonder. Instead, it is fear that the power to forgive generates.
And it does so because the power to forgive runs so counter to ordinary
experience. It comes as a surprise or a shock as if you were walking down a
street turned the corner and suddenly came face to face with some person you
thought dead long ago. Forgiveness is that rare. It’s so contrary to normal
human operations. But Judaism is rarely satisfied with normal human operations.
It has always sought to guide us in the path of elevated human operations, to
go beyond our emotional reflexes. Beyond the animal instinct, and respond in
ways more thoughtful, more deliberate.
Let’s be real. We are all essentially
imperfect beings. We have selective memories, we stretch the truth, we fall
victim to jealousy, we may be selfish, we are not above the unkind word, we get
stuck in bad habits, we let our tempers get the best of us, and our prejudices
sometimes expose the worst of us. How do we live with ourselves? The shame
society says you can’t. The guilt society says you can. The guilt society says
don’t confuse yourself with your shortcomings, and don’t confuse your neighbors
with their shortcomings, because we have the power to reflect, we have the
power to regroup, we have the power to repent, and we thus have the power to
forgive others as we do ourselves.
Of
course, we could ask ourselves philosophically, if you have a power and never
use it, do you really have the power? Whatever the answer to that question is,
I’m telling you now that we are all invested with an incredible power, and that
in a world so poised to kill the sinners, we ought to focus less on justice,
which roots us in the past, and more about forgiveness, which opens up the
possibility of the future.
Two
Martians are doing research on earth from the safety of their spaceship,
gathering all the information they can on this bi-ped, earth-bound species we
know as humans. One says to the other, “Very interesting. They have developed
satellite-based nuclear weapons.” The other says, “Interesting, indeed. So
we’re dealing here with organisms that are an emerging intelligence.” But the
first Martian counters, “I don’t think so. The weapons are pointed at
themselves.”
I
think we need to cut each other a little slack. I think we need to admit that
no one of us has the total answer. I think if we are serious about this other
principle we espouse, “Love your neighbor as yourself,” then we have to embrace
the fact that such a principle is without meaning if we think it applies to
only the neighbors who share our views, as opposed to those who do not.
I
had a professor at the Seminary who once told a group of us something that
always stuck with me and that was this: people are going to have many opinions
about you and express them to you. So just remember this. You’re not as good as
people say you are, but you’re also not as bad. I found that comforting. And I
think it applies to the world in which we live. And don’t get me wrong. I am
not as forgiving as God. But I don’t have to be. I’m not God. None of us are. Then
again, we could all be a little more forgiving of our neighbors than we have
been in this deeply politicized, polarized world that we now find ourselves. We
could use the power of forgiveness to begin the conversations that make for a
better world. Because though there are clearly people in this world who are in
fact, really, really bad, there’s a whole huge demographic out there that are
not as bad as they have been portrayed, and another huge demographic that isn’t
as good as they have been portrayed. A little more humility all the way around is
in order.
You
may ask: well, how forgiving do I have to be rabbi? And I can actually quantify
that answer. You have to start somewhere. If you start out small, that’s okay.
I would suggest that you all begin to look at each other a little more sympathetically,
and with just a little more forgiveness, I would say that all it takes is about
70-90 nanometers worth of forgiveness. If a despicable virus of that size can
change the world, think of what just a little more beloved forgiveness in our
lives could do.
Ketivah
vahatimah Tovah—everyone—May we all be inscribed and sealed into a year
of life and good health, mutual respect, and understanding.